When I was making decisions in the past I used to rush in 'like a bull in a china shop' Making the decision was more important than making a good decision and I generally muddled though relying more on luck than my judgment! I remember once when moving house I chose the property in a hurry with disastrous, and ultimately expensive, results! As I grew older, and I hope wiser, I realised the importance of making good decisions. This is less important when making minor decisions, like deciding what to wear to a wedding because the consequences are only short term. Bigger decisions however, such as whether to leave a partner, change career or invest in the right home have longer term implications that require more careful consideration.
My clients who have divorced or lost their husband have told me that they find making good decisions especially difficult as they no longer have an instant sounding board to check out their thinking. I have also found that people who have made, or been on the receiving end, of a divorce decision can lose trust in their own judgment and have sometimes been asked about decision making techniques to make a good decision
As we grower older we encounter more crossroads in our life and the many aspects of life changing decisions can throw us into turmoil. Choice overload makes it difficult to pick one solution where the positives outweigh the negatives and avoiding making a decision at all can feel a more comfortable option. However, making our own decisions and accepting the consequences is the only way to stay in control of our life.
I am therefore going to begin a series about decision making techniques and how to make good decisions. In Part 1 I will look at guidance for making a good decision and then at tips, tools and decision making techniques. I would love to hear about your favorites!
'It is in the moments of decision that your destiny is shaped' Anthony Robbins
‘You are the person who has to decide. Whether you'll do it or toss it aside; you are the person who makes up your mind. Whether you'll lead or will linger behind. Whether you'll try for the goal that's afar. Or just be contented to stay where you are’. Edgar A. Guest
‘I believe that we are solely responsible for our choices, and we have to accept the consequences of every deed, word, and thought throughout our lifetime’. Elizabeth Kubler-Ross
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